Wedding Planning Guide
Photo: Katie Stoops Photography
You said “yes!” so now it’s your turn to pop the question. While a toast over brunch or heartfelt bridesmaid proposal cards are classics, more and more brides are going all out to ask “Will you be my bridesmaid?” These are some of our favorite ideas for clever notes and gifts to ask your best friends and family members to stand by you on your big day. Personalize the gift even further by adding customizable tags and stickers, favorite photos, or a card with a heartfelt note.
Creative bridesmaid proposal ideas
Go above and beyond a phone call with these fun and playful ways to ask your bridesmaids.
- Create bridesmaid boxes
- Write a heartfelt note in a beautiful card
- Fill a balloon with confetti and a note to “pop!” the question
- Raise toast with personalized glasses
- Give personalized dress hangers
- Customize a scratch-off card
- Make a homemade treat with a personalized label
- Put a ring pop in a favor box with a personalized label
- Make a custom puzzle that reveals your message
What to write in the card
Your message is the most important part. CHOOSE A BEAUTIFUL CARD and make it your own by writing a personal note.
- “It’s my turn to pop the question.”
- “Help me keep my shit together.”
- “I’ll only be a happy bride if my best friend is by my side.”
- “I need you help to hold my dress up while I pee.”
- “I can’t say “I do” without you.”
- “Plan with me, stand with me, cry with me, laugh with me. Will you be my bridesmaid?”
- “My “I do” would not be the same without you.”
- “Welcome to my bride tribe.”
- “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and you.”
- “I got my rock, now I need my flock.”
- “I’ve got my guy, now I need my girls.”
What to put in a bridesmaid box
The will you be my bridesmaid box is a popular trend. Treat your besties to a box of goodies that’ll come in handy during your wedding prep and the big day.
Ready to celebrate
- A Will You Be My Bridesmaid greeting card
- A framed photo gift
- DIY confetti popper
- Personalized tee
- A bottle of champagne
Prepped and pampered
- Nail polish to match your wedding colors
- Bath salts
- Luxe skincare
The finer things
- Personalized jewelry
- Scented candle
- Artisan candies
- Cashmere wrap
You’ve ordered your wedding invitations, purchased postage, and addressed the envelopes—now what? Once you’ve received your finished invites from the printer, it’s time to get everything out the door! But before you start stuffing envelopes, you’ll want to make sure all of the various wedding stationery pieces are in the proper order. Save time (and confusion!) by following our etiquette guide to correctly assembling your wedding invitations:
1. For the most part, wedding invitations are assembled in size order, with each card placed face up and the largest card on the bottom. Start with the invitation card.
2. If a sheet of tissue paper came in between each invitation, it’s your choice whether to include it or not (traditionally, the tissue was used to prevent the ink from smearing). If you’d like to include it, place the sheet of tissue on top of the invitation card.
3. Next, place the wedding reception card face up on top of the invitation card.
4. Place the remaining enclosure cards—i.e., map card or hotel accommodations card—face up on top of the reception card.
5. Place the reply envelope—printed side-down—on top of the enclosure cards, with the envelope flap on the left. Then, insert the reply card under the envelope flap, face up so the printed side is visible. (Don’t forget to pre-stamp the reply envelope; this will save your guests from having to dig around for postage.)
6. If the main wedding invitation is a folded card, place enclosures within the folded invitation (not on top).
7. If you’re using two envelopes—an inner envelope (printed with your wedding guests’ names) and outer envelope (printed with guests’ names and address)—insert the fully assembled invitation suite into the inner envelope (left edge first for a single-card invitation; folded edge first for a folded invitation). Leave the inner envelope unsealed; when the flap is opened, guests should be able to read the invitation as they take it out without having to turn the card.
Next, put the unsealed inner envelope inside the outer envelope with the guests’ names facing outward; when your guests open the invitation, their names should be the first thing they see. (Note: Inner envelopes are not required and are typically used for more formal invites.)
Traditionally, calligraphy is used for the inner and outer envelopes; if you’re hiring a calligrapher, be sure to get your envelopes to him or her at least two to three weeks before your need them. Alternatively, you could skip the calligraphy and save time by having your stationer print the names and addresses directly on the envelopes.
8. If you’re using just one envelope—an outer envelope—insert the fully assembled invitation suite into the envelope (left edge first for a single-card invitation; folded edge first for a folded invitation). Again, when the flap is opened, guests should be able to read the invitation as they take it out without having to turn the card.
9. Use a bottled envelope moistener to wet the gummed edge of your outer envelopes; be careful not to use too much—you don’t want soggy, puckered envelopes. After you’ve sealed all the envelopes; place a heavy book or two on top of the stack to ensure all of the are securely sealed.
10. Before you mail your wedding invitations, bring a fully assembled set to the post office and ask them to weigh it so you know exactly how much postage you’ll need. Once all your envelopes have been stamped with sufficient postage, we recommend bringing them to the post office to be hand canceled (instead of dropping them in a mailbox)—this will reduce the risk of your invitations being damaged in the mail.
Learn how to word your wedding invitations here.