wedding planning guide

maid of honor duties

Congratulations on being chosen to be a maid (or matron) of honor!* Though there are some duties that come with the position, what it truly means is that the bride considers you to be her best friend and confidante, someone she wants by her side on her big day.


Not sure what being a maid of honor entails? The main responsibilities before the wedding are: plan the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, lead the bridesmaids to collectively assist the bride, help the bride to prep and plan, and provide her with an ear or shoulder when she needs it. If you need help planning the pre-wedding parties, enlist help from the rest of the bridesmaids. But most of all, have fun and enjoy your place of honor.


*Note: Maids and matrons of honor have the same responsibilities—the only difference is a matron of honor is married, while a maid of honor is not. A bride, of course, may choose to have both.

We’ve put together this checklist for you (or to give to your MOH) to help you keep track of your to-dos, reduce stress, and focus on the fun.

bridesmaid holding wedding dress train

Photo: Julie Cate Photography

Maid of Honor Checklist

Before the wedding:

⏭ Plan the bridal shower and the bachelorette party

⏭ Provide wedding guests with registry info

⏭ Keep track of gifts received at pre-wedding showers and parties

⏭ Lead the bridesmaids

⏭ Help choose dresses and accessories

⏭ Coordinate hair and makeup

⏭ Coordinate transportation and accommodations

⏭ Assist the bride

⏭ Dress shopping

⏭ Cake and menu tasting

⏭ DIY-ing decor and favors

⏭ Addressing invitations

⏭ Writing out place cards

⏭ Creating music playlist

⏭ Give a toast at the rehearsal dinner (usually optional) and reception

On the wedding day:

Before the ceremony:

⏭ Act as messenger for the bride

⏭ Play hostess: guide guests and answer any questions about the wedding day

⏭ Make sure vendors are in place (be sure to keep a list of phone numbers handy!)

During the ceremony:

⏭ Arrange the bride’s train and veil

⏭ Hold the bride’s bouquet during exchange of vows

After the ceremony:

⏭ Sign the marriage license as a witness

⏭ Bustle the bride’s dress for the reception

⏭ Make sure the bride has eaten

⏭ Escort her to the ladies room (and assist her with her gown, if needed)

⏭ Collect gifts and cards brought to the reception; store them for safekeeping

⏭ Help the bride change and store the dress until after the honeymoon